The Vanishing American Adult


Mike Rowe, creator and host of dirty Jobs gives a review of The Vanishing American Adult.” Couple years ago, somebody told me a senator from Nebraska was tweeting about the essential business of castrating bulls. I didn’t know who Ben Sasse was, but I was intrigued by his use of social media. I’ve since met him, and like him. If you read this book, you will too. It’s excellent. In particular, the ‘Lessons from the Ranch’ section should be required reading for every parent, every child, and every elected official in America. This really is a book for everyone—well, except the bulls.”


Many of the coming-of-age rituals that have defined the American experience since the Founding: learning the value of working with your hands, leaving home to start a family, becoming economically self-reliant―are being delayed or skipped altogether. The statistics are daunting: 30% of college students drop out after the first year, and only 4 in 10 graduates. One in three 18-to-34-year-olds live with their parents.

In the Vanishing American Adult, Sasse diagnoses the causes of a generation that can’t grow up and offers a path for raising children to become active and engaged citizens. He identifies core formative experiences that all young people should pursue: hard work to appreciate the benefits of labor, travel to understand deprivation and want, the power of reading, the importance of nurturing your body―and explains how parents can encourage them.

Our democracy depends on responsible, contributing adults to function properly―without them America falls prey to populist demagogues. A call to arms, The Vanishing American Adult will ignite a much-needed debate about the link between the way we’re raising our children and the future of our country.


Mannyr— I am on the second chapter of this book. There are so many topics covered in The Vanishing American Adult. It explains the adolescent behavior we see running rampant.

Here is a link that will give you a free copy this book:


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What is Pornography Addiction?

When we think of addiction, we most often think of being addicted to chemicals. The truth of the matter is that people can also be addicted to behaviors. Some of these behaviors include eating, gambling and sex. And the number one type of sexual addiction is habitual viewing of pornography.

What is pornography? It’s pictures, videos, writing, or other material that is sexually explicit. It often involves the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement.

The word “pornography” comes from two Greek words that mean “prostitute” and “writing,” so the original meaning is “writing about prostitutes.” But today, even though there are still lots of salacious books, pornography is largely about visual images—in magazines, movies, videos and the Internet. Modern technology has brought us photography, videography and the Internet. Now anyone with a TV or computer can watch porn 24/7 in the privacy and secrecy of his own home. This has made it extremely easy to become addicted—a tragic consequence of scientific achievement.

In a study of 932 sex addicts conducted by Dr. Patrick Carnes, 90 percent of men and 77 percent of women indicated that pornography played a significant role in their addiction (Don’t Call it Love: Recovery from Sexual Addictions , 1991, New York, Bantam).

What’s wrong with pornography?

Pornography is destructive to the mind and heart of the viewer even when he’s not addicted to it. God gave the Ten Commandments to steer humanity toward a happy, healthful life and away from the automatic penalties of disobedience. The Bible is filled with praise for God’s wonderful laws. Psalm 119 is by far the longest chapter in the Bible at 176 verses. It’s entirely about praising God for His Word and His laws. Verse 97 says: “Oh, how I love Your law! It is my meditation all day.” Verse 9 is helpful for people struggling with pornography addiction. It says: “How can a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed according to Your word.”

The seventh of the Ten Commandments is “You shall not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14). This brief umbrella command refers to all the various kinds of sexual sins. And sexual sins are the most self-destructive of all. In 1 Corinthians 6:18, the apostle Paul wrote: “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.”

And Jesus Christ revealed the spirit of the law: “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery in his heart” (Matthew 5:28). Therefore lust (sexual fantasizing and craving) is a sin against God. What Jesus said applies just as much to looking at a visual image of a woman. It’s the same principle if a woman is lusting for a man. Therefore, virtually all deliberate viewing of pornography is sinful because of its lustful nature.

What’s wrong with just looking? God designed our minds, hearts and bodies as they are so people would be attracted to the opposite sex. He made men to be more visually-oriented, and He made women to be beautiful. God’s plan is to motivate men to get married and for each man to enjoy his wife for the rest of his life. This is somewhat summed up in Proverbs 5:18-19, which says: “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love.”

At the same time, God doesn’t want any man to see any naked woman other than his wife, and doesn’t want any woman to see any naked man other than her husband. That way, all the excitement is focused on one’s spouse. And no man has his mind desensitized because he is comparing his wife’s body with a thousand other nude bodies that he’s seen on the Internet. So, viewing pornography is never harmless, even when it’s not yet an addiction.

Pornography is addictive!

Peering at porn often starts as casual curiosity, but that often becomes the appetizer for more and more indulgence in what God forbids. The frequent viewings become a habit, and the habit soon becomes an addiction.

Viewing porn excites the mind and sexually arouses the body. A natural consequence is the carnal desire to act out sexually and relieve the sexual tension. Most often, this is done by masturbation. Pornography and masturbation are both habit-forming, and the two together become a powerful force for addiction. The self-stimulation to a sexual climax is momentarily pleasurable, and it can initially elevate a person’s mood, providing a momentary “high.” That usually results in the temptation to repeatedly replicate these feelings, potentially producing an obsessive-compulsive pattern if not stopped in time by the obvious red flags.

Addictive behaviors often cause chemical alterations in the neurotransmitters of the brain which, in turn, alter moods. These changes can temporarily dull pain or produce pleasurable sensations. They therefore reinforce the addiction.

Typically, people who are quickly attracted to this form of addictive behavior do so to escape some emotional state such as depression, loneliness, anxiety, fear or shame, or to escape from the reality of their circumstances. As a man once told me, “In that world, I’m king.”

However, for most addicts, there is a flip side of the coin. Many feel intense shame and grief for the addiction because it goes contrary to their own belief systems and consciences.

Faulty beliefs about self

Some people become sexually addicted even though they came from a healthy and wholesome family background. They first look at pornography out of curiosity and thrill-seeking and then are gradually seduced by the lure of the eroticism.

But often sex addicts have dysfunctional backgrounds and usually have distorted views of themselves. Dr. Patrick Carnes, a pioneer in sexual addiction, has identified four core beliefs of most sexual addicts. Many of the core beliefs that addicts have are acquired from family systems that are dysfunctional. Dysfunctional families are those where poor boundaries exist among family members, emotional needs are not being met, or where abuse of one form or another might exist. Individuals who come from families where addictions have occurred have a greater probability of, or predisposition for, acquiring addictive behavioral patterns.

Here are the core beliefs Carnes outlines in his book, Out of the Shadows.

  1. I am basically a bad and unworthy person.
  2. No one would love me as I am.
  3. My needs are never going to be met if I must depend upon others.
  4. Sex is my most important need.

Dr. Carnes believes that the roots of sexual addiction begin in childhood. He writes: “When a child’s exploration of sexuality goes beyond discovery to routine self-comforting because of the lack of human care, there is potential for addiction. Sex becomes confused with comforting and nurturing.”

As with other forms of addiction, many characteristics are common to sexual addiction. Here are some to be aware of when confronting porn addicts.


Denial is a defense mechanism that maintains the addictive behavior by failing to admit or minimizing the seriousness of the behavior. The first step towards overcoming any addiction is acknowledging that you have a problem. Only when you can truly be honest about your actions and their consequences and take personal responsibility can a healing process begin.

Compulsivity and Dependence

Compulsivity is a recurring impulse that is difficult to resist. The tension of a negative emotional state is relieved when a behavior or chemical is introduced that causes a neuro-chemical reward. That “reward” reinforces and perpetuates the behavior. When this process is repeated multiple times, it creates a physical and/or psychological dependency.

Tolerance and Escalation

Over time, what used to produce a desired effect and state of mind becomes less effective, and this is called tolerance. What typically happens is that the individual needs more of the drug or behavior to get the desired result. With pornography, the cravings tend to degenerate to porn that is more erotic, explicit, kinky or violent. Or the person may act out sexually in more high-risk behaviors such as going to strip clubs, using “escort” services, or connecting with prostitutes online. This escalation leads to increased levels of shame and guilt, which leads to increased desire to “medicate” the mental pain through escapism, and the cycle of dependency increasingly gets reinforced.

Powerlessness and unmanageability

At this point in the downward spiral of addiction, the individual begins to suffer consequences that may impact areas of life such as marriage, family, spiritual life, financial, legal, and possibly others. It’s often at this point that one finally seeks help. The best way to start the recovery process is to seek the help of our all-powerful Heavenly Father. At this level of enslavement, we need God’s help to emancipate us from the sinful bondage.


Post Number 600

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Church hosting heresy, falling for trap: Liberty Counsel

A prominent evangelical church in Florida is receiving criticism for hosting a seminar that was sponsored by a group that aims to reform Christian teaching on sexual orientation and “gender identity.”

Northland Community Church in Orlando recently hosted the event, which was titled: “Elevating the Dialogue on LGBTQ Inclusion and Understanding of the Church.” It was sponsored by The Reformation Project, founded by Mathew Vines, author of the book God and the Gay Christian.

Joel Hunter, pastor of Northland Community Church, told Charisma News his church hasn’t wavered on the belief that marriage is between one man and one woman. But he said he invited Vines “because his organization helps churches – including churches that do not agree with him – have a conversation to increase understanding between the two normally adversarial groups.”

Hunter also told The Orlando Sentinel: “It’s not about our church’s position about homosexuality. It’s about how we treat each other when we’re different in our perspectives.”

However, a litigation, education and policy organization based in Orlando has some concerns about the event. Roger Gannam is assistant vice president for legal affairs for Liberty Counsel.


“It’s one thing to host a conversation, a panel discussion, or a debate where different sides of an issue are presented,” says Gannam. “But for a church to invite into its walls an organization led by a man who espouses basically heresy – something that is not biblical at all – it’s very disappointing and it’s very alarming.”

The founder of Liberty Counsel, Mat Staver, believes Pastor Hunter has fallen into a trap. “For him to host that pro-LGBT event is heresy,” he adds.

Liberty Counsel argues that the purpose of the event was todistort the Bible and change theology to affirm an alternate sexual lifestyle as normative.”

According to Gannam, attendees were asked to fill out a survey regarding their personal sexual lifestyle choices and their views about LGBTQ inclusion in the church. He explains that after Liberty Counsel’s press release was put out – which had a link to the survey – the link was taken down. But Liberty Counsel created the PDF link above using a printout that had been saved.


Manny speaks : Well what’s wrong with these folks attempting to change the Word of God, After all if the pope can do it why not Gay Christians? ——-spoiler alert ****Gay Christians is an oxymoron.

Do you consider yourself Evangelical?

Less Than Half of US Evangelicals ‘Strongly Agree’ With Core Evangelical Beliefs: LifeWay

A new survey has found that less than half of Americans who identify as evangelicals actually “strongly agree” with core evangelical beliefs, while nearly one-third of Americans who hold evangelical beliefs don’t identify as “evangelical.”

LifeWay Research released a representative survey on “evangelical beliefs and identity” on Wednesday that featured responses from over 1,000 U.S. adults 18 or older that were collected between Nov. 10–12 with a +/- 3.1 percentage-point margin of error.

Among those surveyed, only 24 percent considered themselves to be an evangelical Christian, while 12 percent were unsure and 64 percent said they were not evangelical. Meanwhile, 29 percent considered themselves to be a “born-again” Christian.

Although 24 percent of respondents claimed to be evangelical Christians and 29 percent claimed to be born again, the survey found that only 15 percent of respondents actually agreed with evangelical beliefs defined by LifeWay.

As previously reported, LifeWay, with the help of the National Association of Evangelicals, defines true evangelicals as those who believe in four basic thoughts:

  • The Bible is the highest authority for what I believe.
  • It is very important for me personally to encourage non-Christians to trust Jesus Christ as their Savior.
  • Jesus Christ’s death on the cross is the only sacrifice that could remove the penalty of my sin.
  • Only those who trust in Jesus Christ alone as their Savior receive God’s free gift of eternal salvation.

Each respondent was asked to which degree they agree with the four thoughts highlighted above. Only respondents who said they “strongly agree” with all four ideas were categorized as having “evangelical beliefs.”

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The survey found that among respondents who self-identify as evangelical and born again, only 45 percent of them were categorized as having evangelical beliefs.

Among respondents who said that they would identify as evangelical if it were not for the current political connotation of the word, only 43 percent of them were categorized as having evangelical beliefs.

The survey also found that only about 69 percent of respondents who actually hold core evangelical beliefs actually identify as evangelical, meaning that about three in 10 people who hold evangelical beliefs don’t identify as “evangelical.”

“There’s a gap between who evangelicals say they are and what they believe,” LifeWay Research Executive Director Scott McConnell said in a statement.

The research also found that those who said they hold core evangelical beliefs are more diverse than those who self-identified as evangelical.

Question: Will you share your beliefs? 1-4 Yes/No —- Come on step out from obscurity. Fess up!


Mind Control: How Satan Dominates the Human Mind.

  Mind Control:  How Satan Dominates the Human Mind.

By Michael w. Smith (not the singer).

In II Cor. 4:4 the Word notes that “The God of this world (aion/age) has blinded the minds (noema/thoughts) of those that believe not (apistos/unbelievers).  I have been a counselor for decades.  Twenty-five of those years were spent as a secular counselor and since retiring in 2005, I have been a Christian counselor exclusively.  I frequently provide counseling services to mentally ill Christians.  Since retiring as a secular counselor, the Lord had to re-train my concept of how the brain operates and human psychology.  I had to see people and the profession from a spiritual perspective to understand the root cause of why people are in mental and emotional bondage.  I wrote a study guide on this subject called “Planos Spirits; The Root Cause and Cure of Mental Illness”   that can be obtained off this web site

Science explains that the mind is located inside the brain.  The brain is the hard drive and the mind is the software, so to speak.  Satan uses evil spirits and fallen angels to control humanity and his main target is the human mind.  If he gains control of the mind he can control the rest of the person.  The mind is the only thing in the world a human can control 100%.  The legendary heavyweight boxing champion, Joe Louis once said; “Kill the body and the head will fall.”

In Christianity, it is the opposite; “Kill the head and the body will fall.”  Satan uses two types of spirits (lying spirits and fear demons) to control people (saved or unsaved).  They almost always work in the same order; the lying spirit strikes first and the fear demon attacks second.

(1)  The lying spirit injects a thought (usually negative) into the mind from his hiding place in the unused portion of the brain (Mt. 9:32-33, 12:22).

(2)  The fear demon usually hides in the stomach or chest area and waits to see if the person will receive and believe the lie or negative thought.

(3)  If the person receives the thought, the fear spirit attacks the soul (creating negative emotions) or body (creating pain) which reinforces the lie as truth.

If the person takes the thought given to them captive, the fear demon will strike the soul or body first giving the person negative emotions, feelings or pain.  Once the person labels them, it becomes true to that person.  For example; a negative thought is emitted into the mind from the lying spirit in the brain such as “You will always be alone.  No one likes you.”  Once the person receives and believes the injected thought, the fear spirit attacks the soul and the person “feels” loneliness, fear, rejection, etc.  They are now in bondage.  If the fear demon strikes the soul first and causes the negative emotions to arise in the body, the person labels it “I feel so alone.”  “Everyone rejects me.”

They are now in bondage.  Jesus said “You will know the Truth and the Truth will make you free.  If the Son shall make you free, you shall be free indeed.”  Once the person learns thru discernment, to reject the lying emotions and thoughts, the spirits lose their power and can easily be cast out.  The person can be cured of mental illness and chronic negative thinking patterns.  This is the root of what I call an Obsessive Compulsive Negative Thought Disorder.

They must be mentally renewed (Eph. 4:23).  Only by receiving and believing truth can a person be loosed from the power of darkness (Lk.11:36).  I have seen the Holy Spirit heal a wide range of mentally ill patients including schizophrenia and severe bipolar.  I am one of only a handful of Christian counselors and ministers who have seen these type of mental illness miracles.  Understanding Satan’s methods of mind control is a major key to restoration.

 Repentance is the key (Acts 3:19).  You can be free of Satan’s destructive control of your mind if you repent of receiving negative thoughts and emotions as your own, go through deliverance and re-new your mind on the Word of God (Eph. 4:23, I Cor. 2:16, II Cor. 10:4-5, Phil. 2:5, I Pet. 1:13, 4:1).


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