Hearts of Stone in Relationships.

In this the children of God and the children of the devil are manifest: Whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is He who does not love, for this is the message that you heard from the beginning, that we should love one another. 1 John 3:10,11.

“I-You” relationships: Each “I” meets and treats all others as a revered “You” spirit to spirit, heart to heart, mind to mind, openly and without hindrances. Those who learn and live in “I-You” relationships learn to cherish the other person. He hurts in anticipation of the other’s hurt and stops before a personal action might damage the other. This is the true function of a working conscience.

Question, what loving mother would destroy not only a developing relationship with the blessing of a baby, conceived in a marriage of love but would carry out the hardness of her heart. I would hope none, but abortion figures do not lie. There are apparently an awful lot of hardened hearts just having sex and murdering  the innocent child.


To whatever degree of adamancy (hardness, imprisonment, stubbornness) in their hearts, (caused by the deceitfulness of sin) people are unable to enter into “I-You” relationships.

In these encounters, people are restricted to “I-IT” relationships.

In “I-IT” relationships, we dehumanize the other person; we view them as something other than a person someone who is subhuman, a lessor human being. As the pro-choice people claim that what is growing in the womb is not a life but a thing, I wonder why after a child is born and grows up that they resemble their parents?

Those who are in “I-IT” relationships do not have a functioning conscience, because to them no other has ever become a cherished “You.” Any other remains only an “IT” to bounce off of, attack, or run over.

When we try to reach out we do so from our shell (our hardened hearts) to their shell (hardened hearts). The “I-IT” works both ways and our lives become less and less human.

Our Lord Jesus came to restore our humanity which has been beaten from pillar to post by the malignant one Satan. A hardened heart is just one of his devices used to deceive a person who worships self instead of our Lord and chooses to live in sin.

Our goal is to bring forth the spirit (personal spirit) to embrace, and then build “Truth” which is “The ability of heart and mind to interpret meanings and cherish others intent.”

Open hearts and minds comprehend. Hard stubborn hearts are not able to comprehend. These hearts cannot stay in fellowship (cannot sustain) in the relationship.

John 4:24 Our Lord Jesus said, God is Spirit, and they who worship Him must worship Him in spirit and in truth.”

It is humanity that Satan desires to destroy. It is the heart of stone which is Satan’s tool to block humanity. As stated above, it is Jesus who became human to meet and melt hearts of stone, to give us hearts of flesh (there is a good flesh).

It is a heart flesh in Jesus, which is God the Father’s gift to restore humanity. For that reason Jesus came to “baptize you with the Holy Spirit and with fire” Matthew 3:11 only the fire of love can melt a heart of stone. Let us meet in “I-You” relationship.


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Chris Reimers
    Sep 06, 2013 @ 18:33:46

    We have both been blessed to find someone who is willing to live with us in an “I-You” relationship. In my case, it’s 32 years and counting. What a gift from God our wives are.

    Of course, the only thing higher is an “I-You” relationship with Almighty God.

    As you have stated: “only the fire of love can melt a heart of stone.”

    God’s blessings my friend…


  2. Delight in Truth
    Sep 07, 2013 @ 06:44:38

    “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!: Isa 49:15


  3. Mannyr
    Sep 07, 2013 @ 17:47:39

    We are speaking of prior to birth, where man/woman in their evil intent dismisses the child and practices the work of Satan to destroy what God intends to be a blessing and to fulfill His desire spoken to Adam and Eve.


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